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Tinkerbell Legacy - Living with a flying parrot

Continuation of 23 Dec - Tinkerbell -Total Healing and Final Closure
Morning of 25 Dec 915 pm.

Woke up late as was up late trying to blog as much as I could last night.

Merry Christmas to all of you reading this.

This is still on the events of 23 Dec and we were having our dinner and drinks in the courtyard of the farm up the slope of Alishan mountain. Before coming on this trip, I was a bit worried that of the bitter sweet pain of coming here.

But actually, at first sight of Yu family and Tinkerbell coming to pick us from the High Speed Rail Station at Chiayi, I was just plain happy and delighted to see ALL of them again.

During the dinner where we ate and Zorro and Halftail was being told, Tinkerbell was placed on a waist high wall. Then Mr Wu picked up a fish head remarking he was going to feed a cat and walking towards Tinkerbell. I instantly got up to rush to Tink as the knowing of a cat in proximity of Tink set off all the alarms. I was fast but Yu was like greased lightning and was with Tink already. It turned out to be a small kitten perhaps 5 months old, but even so, it was un-nerving.

It showed the total attachment Yu had developed with Tink as there can be no other way Yu was that quick.

Tink had this preference for head rubs in the evening. You have seen that in that head shot photo of the two of us where she would half close her eyes snuggling to my cheek for headrubs.

Tink was on Yu's shoulder after that kitty incident. She goo goo goo asking for her headrubs from Yu. That was a very sweet moment to see the two of them so affectionate to each other. I felt no bitterness at all. In fact, that that very point, I felt myself to be totally healed from the pain of separation with Tinkerbell. That was when I knew from my heart and soul that I acheived final closure.

I was so happy for both of them. Tinkerbell will always be in my heart, but not with pain any more. My healing was complete.

I knew I can happily have another parrot in my life at a later stage. That might be a grey or Eckky or 2s. That will not be a replacement as nothing can replace Tink. That will also be very unkind to them as any future companion will be enjoyed without the need of any comparison with Tink.

I then experimented just to confirm what I already knew. I got Tink to step up and transferred to my shoulder. She stood there with a frozen expression. I told her I liked to head rub her and she remained frozen. I raised my hand slowly and Tink just as slowly moved her head out of range.

Joy and I laughed. It was so obvious. Tink was then returned to Yu's shoulder where she happily recieved head rubs.

Tink in unmistakable ways recognised and was delighted to see me again today as well as subsequently on the following days. But just as clearly, she healed showered by the affections she received from the Yus and she moved on with her life.

And in the same way, I can move on ahead with the rest of my life.

Videos of us being uploaded and seen in

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24 Dec - Riding bike with Tink in Chiayi
I think this blog can even catch up with the events. Too much happened on that first day on reaching Chiayi and Tink and friends that I needed to write about such as Zorro and Halftail. That could not be written all on one day as time to write was so short.

Friends such as Wendy wrote to me wondering if that meant I be seeing less of Tink. On the contrary, I will be seeing her and Yu and friends as much as I had done before. It is an exquisite pleasure to be with Tink and will be even more so without that kind of pain of the past. Thats what is meant by total healing and final closure. The bond and joy is very much there, but without the gnawing yearning of a road that never be.

At one time, I thought perhaps it would have been better if Tink had died and gave the most final of final closure. I have read of people who put to sleep their pets when they could not take them with them and had been so worried that the pets happiness suffered in hands of others who they feared might not look after them that well. In such pain of separation, I cannot find it in my heart to chastise them. Such pain can be immensely difficult to bear and that surely affect the mind and decisions made.

But in my case, the friendship extended to me in Taiwan, and the delight of friends and Tinkebell to be with me again soothed and finally healed the hurt that was in me.

She will always be my Tinkerbell, but I am so happy that she is also so happy and that we can and we will see each other over and over again.

Yu offered me the use of his car as he was happily in his factory executing the orders that he have on his book. I preferred to use the old motor scooter to potter about with Tink in front and wife behind unless the distance we were going was too great.

Since his youngest son and daughter had day off from school, my wife and I were to take them to the nice swimming complex here that was made in a style unique to Taiwan. There were piping hot pools and warm pools to loll in and relax somewhat like those in saunas I described in earlier visits. Except that since the crowd was mixed, swim suits had to be worn.

But we had the morning to us. My wife and I love the mi gou, a traditional breakfast of sticky rice cooked with savoury pork. And yes! Tink love that too. So we went off to that shop near where we used to live. The proprietor and staff were so happy to see us back again. They all knew we came back to be with Tink even if I told them I came back just to see them and eat their wonderful breakfast.

We then pop into my old optician. I sat on my glasses when I was in Australia and over there, they wanted to charge me 5000 NT to fix it. In Chiayi, that was done for me in 20 minutes and cost me 500 NT (about US1 to 30NT). At that kind of cost, I made another spare. Same with me wife who was flabbergasted by the difference in cost with whats quoted in Australia.

We then went for slow ride with Tinkerbell along the padi fields and side streets of Chiayi. Those videos are being uploaded right now by my wife Joy as I blog this now. Here is one

Many more videos were taken but uploading here from Yu's house is slow.

Then it was time to be back to take the kids out.

The afternoon was happily spend with them as you recalled that I promised to teach all of them to swim. The daughter missed out earlier as she had an accident with a bad cut to her leg and could not go into the pool.

The weather changed rapidly here. The fine weather in morning changed to dark sky and rain. So it was all for the better that we were in the warm and hot pools enjoying ourselves instead of in the rain. Tink was in her own flight room and with many happy days ahead of us.

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24 Dec - Evening at Chiayi Wen Tai Temple
Yu had a committee meeting at his Wen Tai Temple in the evening. We all went along as all those people had been so warm and friendly to me that it will be very rude if I did not drop by to say hi to them. I liked them too.

Joy took several videos in the temple so I better make this note here as well so those videos can be placed in context when they all are finally uploaded.

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25 Dec - Lantang Lake with Tinkerbell
The time now is 905 pm on 25 Dec and I am now writing on events of 25 Dec today. A most unusual event as normally I had to write one or two days behind and at a most unearthly time like way past midnight fighting sleepiness.

Much of this morning was spend in trying to get this blog up to date recordning events of 23 Dec. We only got out of the house with Tinkerbell at around 11 am as a result.

It was so pleasing to be able to finally get on the road. With my wife Joy sitting behind me and Tinkerbell in front. She looked so lovely sitting in front on her perch as we slowly made our way to Langtang lake.

We had to drop in by the drink shop that specialised in the star fruit drink made to their family traditional secret recipe. The proprietress greeted me with delight. I was a fervent patron of their stall ever since Mr Yu first introduced me there. And on each return to be with Tinkerbell, they all would see me there again. Each time I being there, I had been embarassed by the extras that they gave to me under the guise of samples.

If you are in love with the star fruit drink, I cannot imagine any other variation could ever be better than what this stall made. If ever you are in Chiayi city and like to try that please see this flickr photo and the address written in Chinese in the caption

Yes, we went to this stall the first day we came back to Chiayi. But 23 Dec had too many events to write about as you had seen.

My wife Joy started the uploads of photos into Flickr. You can see that in her photostream.

We then went to my favourite spot by the LangTang lake. I just love to see Tinkerbell sitting and moving about on her perch in front of me. From time to time, she fluffed her head feathers. Or squealed to me nodding her head indicating she wanted her beak rubs. It felt so much better this time. Earlier times had been less observed. When we were all living in Chiayi that time and we thought we would live there forever, those actions from Tinkerbell seemed trivial as we thought we would see that forever.

Then in the two earlier trips when I came back, time felt so short and the knowing that we had to part made all that so poignant and bittersweet that it was painful to be too happy.

Today I enjoyed that knowing that I will continue to enjoy such times with Tinkerbell whenever I be back again.

We reached there, parked the bike and walked down the path to the platform by the lake edge.

Tink was placed on the railing for her to preen. We brought takeaway lunches with us to picnic away. I portioned out her share.

From time to time, Tink signalled she was bored by flying to my backpack trying to ripped that apart. I had to liven her up by doing recalls.

This was the first major recall exercises since I came back on this trip. Tinkerbell did extremely well. But again, the recalls were done over relatively short distances, starting from 5 meters to not more than 20 meters.

A couple of times, Tink accepted the sunflower seeds offered as rewards. Most of the time she just refused those seeds. She was not very motivated by food.

Even if it was not cold at all despite it being Dec 25 and deep into winter, the day was shorter and getting dark. We had to leave. We have so many days ahead of us here.

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